Do “toxic people” exist?

I believe there are no “toxic people”. People can be unpleasant, evil, malicious, nasty or mean. Really a lot of words to be used apart from the word “toxic”, in that respect.

My objection is based on the actual meaning of the word “toxic”. Whether something is toxic or not, depends on the dose. Paracelsus, the father of toxicology, said it long ago.

If people are toxic, then you simply reduce the dose to its bare minimum. At so low doses, there is really no need to bother describing those people.

If people are malicious, then it is really not your problem. You cannot change them and maybe it’s better for you to protect yourself from those people.

Our intellect allows to critically reflect on people’s behaviors and traits. We may simply consider leaving the word “toxic” as a descriptive to a substance rather than a person.

People are complex creatures that deserve an effort to be first understood and then evaluated. If we try, we will see clearly through them. And who knows, we may find magic souls and beautiful hearts.



The universe does not make conspiracies

Freddie Mercury said it all: “I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now!”. I do not find a reason to wait for the “universe” to send me what I wish for. I will work my way there, and yes I will be thrilled to see the “positive energy from the universe” on my side, but let us be honest:

The universe only reflects the outcome of our own actions. So work your way to accomplishing your goals, whatever your goals are.  No one will be more willing to make your dreams become true than yourself.

In any case, an honest effort, in achieving our goals,  deserves the attention from the “universe” and the support from our people.



An Alternative Cover Letter

I wonder if I get invited for an interview after this cover letter I sent:

Dear Sir or Madam,

Having seen the advertisement for the position of ### at @@@ I am writing to you in order to highlight my motivation and relevant experience with respect to this position.

In the spirit of honesty, I will start with downsides, rather than my upsides which are rather outstanding. It might occur that non-academic world hesitates to hire Drs, however, I am convinced that my skills and qualifications are vital for private market. My personal goal, after my graduation, is to make a significant contribution to the world of regulatory affairs and registration of chemicals/products. I love learning, but I like application even more, therefore, I believe I am the right match for this position at @@@, a leading industry in paints and not only.

Admittedly, my research has been industry oriented as I have been working with @@@@, however, always maintaining academic standards. My final thesis was evaluated as sufficient which sounded almost worrying. But wait a second, I managed to produce a sufficient amount of work, which proves my skills to resolve complex issues, by myself and on time.

Apart from demonstrating my analytical skills by developing a decision analytic framework I also demonstrated my communication skills by establishing mutual agreements between economists, toxicologists and statisticians in order to finalize my interdisciplinary project.

During this project, I lived in many countries in Europe and I worked in three different work environments (academia, industry, research centers), indicating my strong international and multicultural orientation. The results of my thesis have made a contribution to the process of getting chemicals registered under regulatory constraints.

More important than my skills is the sense of responsibility which drives me in life. I am a good listener but with my own views still there. I speak my opinion with robust argumentation as I did during my negotiations to turn my research into a more ‘toxicological’ direction. Using strong arguments, providing a feasible plan for the recommended change, coupled with a smile most of the times lead you to the desired result.

Having highlighted my downsides and most importantly my upsides, I wish we will have the chance to further talk about a feasible plan that will allow me to make a contribution to @@@ as a ###. I would like to thank you for accepting my application. I wish you luck with the recruiting process and I am looking forward to meeting you.


Sincerely yours,

M. De Leone


Second Interview… Always be yourself

So I went to this company for the first time, did my best and here it goes! I received a second invitation for the same position within a day.

I did have a good feeling  because I enjoyed my first interview but I didn’t want to get exited because you never know what happens. Sometimes, our fears do not let us see how good it can be when you are yourself.

In fact, what else, better than being yourself, can you be?

Don’t get me wrong, when I say “being yourself” I don’t mean “stay the same old self of yours”. To the contrary, I encourage you to be yourself, to embrace your powers and your weaknesses and never forget who you want to be.

We all chose our own battles and therefore, our ambition to become better is part of who we are. Of course, choosing our own battles comes with the responsibility to work on it. This time, no one is going to support you, no one is going to force you. Only you are responsible for your choices and for acting upon them.

To bring it back to my second interview:

Again, I should be myself and I should focus on who I want to be. Getting a new job means entering a new chapter in your life. The more determined I am the more likely it is to get the final offer!



Interview … Just be yourself

Good news! I managed to get invited to a job interview!!!

Oh the stress just kicked in the moment I saw the invitation email. I have a chance to get the job I am looking for all this time. Lets step back for a minute and think about it.

This is a first interview with this company. Do I have a chance to make it? If I think of how many capable people there are out there, I must admit  find it hard. But does the number of capable people really matter?

I just graduated my PhD and I did complete a difficult project. I am actually on top of the world right now. I promised I am an excellent candidate, in my cover letter, because I believe it. Although still a candidate, I do have a chance to get this job simply because I was given the chance to explain why I applied for this job.

Today, I spend a few stressful hours and then I just pulled myself together. I read the requirements of the position again, researched about the company, looked up the profiles of my interviewers, tried to revise everything I know so far on the topic, checked all possible questions an interviewer can make, tried to find smart answers…and I got more stressed.

I give up, I only have time to be myself. I will explain what it means to me to work on something I love. I want to make it as much as someone tries to get oxygen while his head is forced below the surface of water. If and only if I convince them that getting this job will give oxygen to my life, I have a true chance to get this job.

I may as well be myself then.





The job of your dreams

Of Your dreams…


Does the “job of your dreams” exist?

Definitely YES… But again most probably NOT.  The repetitive nature of jobs may change a job into something boring or at least not-so-nice. There is nothing fun when something becomes repetitive. No wonder why people run away from their offices every Friday evening… Finally weekend !!!!!

Every job, from a cleaner to a prestigious doctor, can become boring and tiring. There is no such a thing as “good” or “bad” jobs. A job that sounds ideal for me may be the death sentence of another person.

So, to find a right match in the job market, we need to know what we want from our job and and how we are going to take it. Once you find the job you were looking for, it requires your dedication to learn and your courage to dare.

How nice would it be if we all did what we liked in life. But again, how would we know if we never had a shitty job? In the spirit of adaptation, we may welcome any challenge that comes along in our work-life even if it is a shitty job that we simply don’t like to do.

My last thought about the “job of your dreams” is that apart from finding “the job”, it is rather important to find what your dreams are at first place.

What are the dreams you make with your eyes open? How are you going to make them true? What makes you happy in a rainy morning? What job do you want to have?



The pursuit of a job

Is it important?


The pursuit of happiness would most probably sound much more romantic, however, we live in a cruel world and paying our bills can dominate our mind when our savings (if any) are dropping dramatically.

As plain as it sounds, unless you have a source of income that allows you to simply enjoy life without thinking of your survival, we all have to find our way in the job market. It would be ideal to get paid for what we like to do, but many times we are called to do shitty jobs. I have been through this phase for some time now, not long but enough to make me think what do I want in life and most importantly how I am going to get it.

Jobs 2017 blog will carry the process of how people can find out what they want, how they can accomplish it and how they can communicate this to the job market, thus the world we live in, through my eyes.

Calmness and dedication: This is what you need to make things work

You can see my grown-up shadow in this photo as well. I took a photo of my “photo as a kid” last time I visited my parents’ home. Sometimes we all need to go back, remember who we were in order to find out who we want to be.